How many times a day do you tell yourself you can’t do something? A couple? A dozen? Even better, how many times each day do you have a negative thought?
If you’re like most people your answer is likely “I have no idea”. The real answer is dozens, scores, or more.
“I can’t finish this”
“I’m tired”
“I’m too [blank] to do that”
“Why did I even try that?”
…and so on. If you’re like most people, whenever you encounter adversity you have an uncontrolled, negative thought about the situation. Think back to the last time you were in the middle of a particularly tough waist exercise workout. How long did it take before thoughts like “Jeez I’m tired” or “There’s no way I can finish this today” started creeping in?
It’s normal, so don’t sweat it. The problem with negative thoughts is that they are like computer programming: each is similar to a line of computer code, and the more thoughts you have, the more powerful the program becomes. After awhile you begin to believe the negative thoughts, bad things happen, and the thoughts turn out to be true, which in turn leads to more negative thinking.
Negative thinking is programming. The good news, however, is that any kind of thinking is programming. Positive thinking will also program you, but for success.
Therein lies a killer solution to a nasty problem: instead of programming with negative thoughts for failure, program with positive thoughts for success.
Step 1: Tune Into Your Own Thoughts
The first step to solving any problem is becoming attuned to it. So in order to replace all the dozens to hundreds of negative thoughts you have each day with positive ones you must first become sensitive to when you’re having a negative thought.
Write a note in your calendar for tomorrow or place a sticky note on your mirror or desk: “What is my first negative thought today?”
Once you catch yourself thinking something negative, write it down and start looking for the next one. The first day you’ll likely forget soon after catching the first one or two negative thoughts, but don’t give up. Write yourself the same reminder for the next day and do it all over again, this time trying to become aware of just one or two more negative thoughts than the previous day.
Keep doing this until your inner response to any negative thought is “Aha! A negative thought!”
Now that you’re catching all these nasty little damage-inducing thoughts, let’s talk about what to do with them.
Step 2: Replace the Negative with the Positive
Since you’re now painfully aware of all of the negative thoughts you’re having it’s time to substitute a positive thought for every one of them.
Think of yourself as an engine: each time you go to put a quart of crappy, gunky oil in, stop yourself and replace it with high-tech, race-quality motor oil. If you keep your engine filled with good fluids it will get you where you need to go. Otherwise you’ll go nowhere.
Each time you have a negative thought, stop whatever it is you’re doing and think of a powerful positive thought to replace it with.
If you’re in the middle of a workout and you catch yourself thinking “There’s no way I’m going to finish this thing”, instead think “I’m going to finish, and finish strong!” over and over again.
For each negative thought, pound a positive thought into your mental machinery several times. If you catch yourself thinking “I’d love to run a marathon but there’s no way I can find the time to train”, replace that thought with “I’d love to run a marathon, so I’m going to be creative, figure out a way I can train for it, and make myself proud.”
Keep at this until it becomes habit. Once you’re constantly programming yourself with positive thinking there is literally no limit to what you can do.
